On Being Thirty and Single

I’m currently single and enjoying the fu*k out of my life.

I was bartending last week when an older man asked if I had “finally found a man.” He implored, “When are you gonna get married and have kids already?! You’re 30 now. You need to think about these things!”

I’m not triggered by these types of questions. I’m used to hearing mostly everything that’s on people’s minds the moment they think of it - especially the ever provincial question of “when will I find a husband already?!”

I’m 31. I live alone. I support myself. I work my ass off to be where I am & to get to where I want to be. I love my space. I adore alone time. I live by my own standards. I do what I want when I want without needing to address anyone. I rely on myself to be happy & don’t need to worry about someone else disturbing my peace. I love my life right now 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 I am alone.

What’s wrong with that? Can most people say they’re happy alone? Most of the people I know who are married with kids can’t wait to have a moment of alone time, yet this question of discovering my happiness when I’m married with kids is one of the most common inquiries I receive.

For anyone who’s single & either feels like they need to be with someone or have children in order to be fulfilled, let me remind you of something:

Your alone time is one of the most valuable treasures you possess. Embrace it and love it. One day you’re going to wish you enjoyed it more.

You live life by your own rules, so 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 your own rules! There’s no guidebook to personal happiness. You don’t need a partner or a child to be the happiest version of yourself. (And if you desire those things - great!) Remember though, you choose what happiness means for you.

Being single is one of the most freeing experiences you can ever have. You’re the one steering the ship. You get to decide where your journey is taking you. You choose who’s coming along on your adventure. 𝒀𝒐𝒖'𝒓𝒆 the one running the show.

Remember that the next time someone tries to tell you that your fulfillment is in someone or something else.

𝒀𝒐𝒖 are your own fulfillment. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 are the life you choose to live.

And in that is an abundance of power.